A Brief Letter to 10-Year-Old Fais: A Self-Reflection of the Past & A Reminder of the Present

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 Disclaimer: This is not an inspiring, attractive, or motivational story. This is a story about life. It’s about a wish from a 25-year-old woman if she had a chance to say to a 10-year-old girl. A self-reflection and reminder for many, myself.

It’s beyond challenging to blend in and fit in, even in the smallest cluster of society; like your family. For an innocent 10-year-old girl, she thought that her own perception of herself was the worst, but it got even worse when others fed those bad thoughts even more. this 10 year old girl is expected to be a firm eldest child. physically tough, mentally tough. She used to not complaining small grumble, evenmore to cry. Once she started grumbling, she would be blamed for her incompetence. Once she started crying, she would be accused for being a weak child. How are little girls even capable of doing such things? How come? What’s more frustrating is that the  girl couldn’t say a word to defend herself, she was just stunned, unable to express her feelings as she had been tired of altercation. She had been tired of seeing disappointment. She used to let her-loved-one down. she was suck. 


But, alas, at 10 years old, we’re too naive and would believe whatever people say about us. A 10-year-old can’t judge and immediately know what’s right and what’s wrong, what’s just and what’s not. And so, their actions got to her and were stuck inside her mind and soul. But eventually, now she realized she was so much more than what they made her believe. Then eventually, she believed that she was worthy and that her insecurity was instead her power to thrive.

I’ve heard people ask questions, “What part of your life that you wish you could change if you had the opportunity?”. Some would answer, let it be as it is, as they believe that everything happens for a reason. Of course, I agreed with them wholeheartedly. But even so, if I had the chance, I would definitely go back to when I was ten. I would tell my 10-year-old self that she was her own soldier, that she was remarkably unique. Therefore, she should believed in herself and stop the dominos effect of this issue from falling to personality issue. But most importantly, I would tell her that she is no less than anybody and that they were also no less than herself. That we are all equal as human beings.

But of course, we can’t change the past. What happened has happened, and my past will always be a part of me that I’ll carry everywhere I go. A part of me that molded me into the person I am today. But I do want to say thank you to the old me. Thank you for surviving those tough times, even if you were on the brink of tears quietly whenever things got too rough. Thank you for making this almost quarter century woman understand the importance of respecting and accepting everyone, regardless of their background. Thank you for putting those experiences together and letting them shape her way of thinking. My way of thinking. Last but definitely not least, thank you for making those moments a compass that directs my decisions in life and making my own moral conscience; to continuously strive to do what is right and not what is easy, even if it takes a lot of sacrifices.


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